darkGreeny.com’s purpose is to be a collection of writings that are (with one or two exceptions) cross-posted over where Betty Dodson has teamed up with Carlin Ross.
This is the holding pond of things I find interesting or provoking or amusing, probably related to sex and/or gender. I think about sex a lot. Most of the time, actually. Sex, gender, sex-and-gender. I couldn’t say if it’s more than the average person since (too) few people speak openly about it. Let’s envision and recreate a world in which sex is not relegated to the realms of awkward jokes and whispers.
My writing on this site and at Dodson & Ross was once under the byline “Dee Greene,” and before that “darkGreeny.” I came to the place where owning my sexuality included linking my real name to the words I write about bodies, sex, and gender.
I let go of the pseudonym in lieu of my real name, Marisa Black, in August 2011, three weeks before going to New York City to film the Bodysex DVD with Betty, Carlin, Sheila, Sayaka, D, and Helen.
Embracing masturbation, both alone and with others, holds a key place for me in finding wholeness sexually. I’ve masturbated for as long as I can remember, and that strong relationship with my self-sex was part of what caused me to question the beliefs of the Mormon culture in which I was raised.
Since leaving Mormonism as an adolescent, I continued to cherish my self-generated orgasms, and I now find myself increasingly intrigued by the social aspects of shared self-sex.
Over the span of my adulthood so far, my sex and relationship styles have shifted and shifted again. I expect they may continue to change.
Married to a man for most of my twenties, I practiced polyamory before, during, and after that marriage. For the first half of my thirties, I was monogamous with a female partner. Now I find myself a single poly, where I learn to dance while also seeking centeredness in relations with friends, lovers, myself.
I continue to learn how to hold all the pieces of myself and my history with wide, gentle arms. In finding reconciliation, I’m making room for all of me.
#1 by joelle eeckels on March 22, 2012 - 4:47 pm
thanks a lot for this so interesting blog. Keep on rocking sister Goddess.
#2 by Peter Kirk Litster on January 23, 2013 - 7:54 pm
Beautiful, Moss. Clear, honest, vibrant, real. I’m glad that we’ve gotten to the depth of discussion and relationship as we have on these and so many other matters. I love you as a soul sister from ages ago, and am grateful for our camaraderie des tranchées on the Mormon thing. Thank you for including me in the conversation
As you know, my Mormon/masturbation/owning-and-developing-my-sexuality issues are in many ways similar to yours, and to, truth be told, so many other beautiful Mormon expats and shipwreck survivors I have known (not that we all claim to be shipwreck survivors).
Stories run the gamut from hilarious, to absurd, to plain wrong, but they are what make us the unique snowflakes that we are
Love you Moss <3
#3 by Peter Kirk Litster on January 23, 2013 - 7:57 pm
BTW: I’m with you on the value of orgasms to my well-being. I’ll also confess my “seasoned pro” status, after nearly 3 decades of practice